Traditions help keep people connected over years and generations, and we love the experience of the holidays. But what happens when those traditions no longer work? Circumstances, budgets or tastes change, and sometimes you need a little help finding a new way to celebrate.
I was 3 years old and living life pretty close to the floor when I discovered a mysterious cord. It came out of the wall near the baseboard and extended way up out of my line of sight, onto a kitchen countertop. Sitting on the Linoleum, I reached up, grabbed the cord and gave it a few exploratory yanks. Yes, folks, it was a telephone cord.
Children today seem to have the weight of the world on their shoulders, or at least they seem to think they do. It’s not uncommon to walk down the street and see them dressed in black clothing from head to toe, hear them voicing their frustrations loudly to whomever will listen, or simply see them scowl at the world. Unfortunately, this behavior is not isolated to teens, who parents have accepted as the “angry, angst-filled” segment of the population; it can be witnessed in younger children aged, three to thirteen, as well. With busy social calendars, more toys, clothes, and gadgets to their names than any other generation in the history of the world, and more income at their disposal than previous generations – it brings to mind the question of exactly what do these children have to be angry about?
In response to the <a href="http://www.oregonfamily.com/2011/08/raising-girls-in-todays-world/" target="_blank">“Raising Girls”</a> Article in Oregon Family Newspaper, as a counselor, professor, woman, wife, and mother of a young girl, I just wanted to add some thoughts on the topic of Raising Girls in Today’s Society. Our hope is that we raise our girls to have confidence and positive self esteem. Almost everyone has either a female friend, a mother, a sister, a daughter, a niece, a grandmother, or a wife, so this issue really does affect everyone in the immediate/extended family and larger culture.
Back when our kids were little, after dinner we’d load them into a red wagon and stroll downtown along a riverside path, and buy ice-cream cones. I wouldn’t mind if my kids grew up thinking that all life is as idyllic as this, but sometimes seamy stuff intrudes and must be dealt with.
They’re called “digital natives” - the teens, tweens (and younger) who were born into a world rich with technology. Their formative years have included surfing the web, playing video games with friends halfway around the world, navigating smart phones and tablets and being able to connect instantly to any information with a few keystrokes.
"Daddy puts on your bras sometimes," my then 4-year-old said nonchalantly as I tried on lingerie in a department store dressing room.
The differences between men and women are often discussed, ranted about, and written about (Mars and Venus.) It’s a common acceptance that men and women are typically polar opposites and how trying to understand the opposite gender is next to impossible. While it would be easier to simply accept this as fact, the truth remains, once parenthood becomes a reality, all gloves are off. Parents must then attempt to become experts on how to rear their children regardless of gender. An easy way to approach the task of raising boys is to put it in perspective. Besides wanting these young men to be smart, polite, confident, successful, law-abiding, intelligent citizens, mothers should try to raise their sons to be the type of man they’d want to marry, and fathers should try to raise sons to be the type of men they’d want their daughters, sisters or mother to marry.
It’s no secret it takes work to make a family, well, work. Individual personalities, daily situations and family dynamics all play roles in the development of a successful relationship. These factors are even truer when trying to blend a family.